What is true help for our loved ones?

a picture of butterfly to explain true help

Story time! The man and the butterfly

Why helping is not always the best option? This story will make you think twice before you offer your help…

Watch the video or read the story below

A little boy found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small hole appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to get out of the cocoon through that little hole. Until it suddenly stopped making any progress and looked like it was stuck. So, the man decided to help the butterfly.

He took a pair of scissors and removed the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then came out easily, although it had a weak body and small shrivelled wings.

The little boy didn’t think anything of it and sat there waiting for the wings to get bigger to support the butterfly. But that didn’t happen. The butterfly spent the rest of its life unable to fly, crawling around with tiny wings.

Despite the kind heart of the little boy, he didn’t understand that the cocoon and the struggle needed by the butterfly to get itself out were Nature’s way of preparing the butterfly for flying once it was out of the cocoon.

Our struggles in life develop our strengths. Without struggles we never grow and never get stronger, so it’s important for us to tackle challenges on our own, and not be relying on help from others. We must also be careful not to make others dependent on us.

And you, how did you develop your own wings? Do you let your loved ones develop their own wings as well or do you help them too much?

Dream big, start small, act now

Why so many people want to change their lives but fail?  They don’t have a plan! You will find out here how to set your goals and make a plan to reach them.

 Step 1 – Prioritize. Choose your top 2 dreams.

Circle your top 2 dreams the ones who would change it all!

Why only two first? If you try to pursue too many dreams at the same time, you will lose your energy. That’s why so many people can’t make their dreams come true. They have too many things to achieve at the same time!

Step 2 – Plan

This is a very important step. Many people fail to plan and that explain why nothing changes in their lives!

For the 2 dreams that you selected, plan what you need to do to NOW, in 6 months and in 5 years to make them come true.  It means thinking SMALL. What are the little baby steps that will bring you closer to your dream? Make the first actions to do now very easy. It will give you courage to tackle the next ones.

Step 3. Act now!

This is the most important advice to remember. You can make a beautiful plan but if don’t act, nothing will happen. So don’t wait for tomorrow, follow your plan and act now!

Priorities first, do you know what are your rocks?

stone in an hand representing priorities in life

Days go by so quickly. Make sure you know what your priorities in life are. They are probably similar to your dreams! Plan time for them in your morning ritual.

Watch the video or read the story below.

A professor stood before his class. When the class began, he picked up a very large and empty jar and without saying a word, he started to fill it with rocks. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. So, the professor then picked up pebbles and put them into the jar.

He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was. The professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar.

Of course, the sand filled up the remaining open areas of the jar. He then asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “Yes.” “Yes,” said the professor, “I want you to see that this jar represents your life. The rocks are the important things – your family, your health, your children – things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be meaningful. The pebbles are the other things that matter – like the activities you enjoy doing. The sand is everything else, the small stuff.”

“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.”

“Take care of the rocks first – the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”

And you, what are your rocks? Do you devote time and energy to them every day?

 

Why hoping for the best and working hard are not enough…

Why hoping for the best and working hard are not enough…

This is the story of 2 tourists, Hope and Plan. There are in Paris for only one day. They are so excited to see the Eiffel Tower but they have no map of Paris.

Hope is sure that she can find the Eiffel Tower easily. It’s so big right? So, she just comes out of the hotel early in the morning and starts walking.

Plan also knows that she can walk for long hours. But it’s her only day in Paris, she wants to make sure to reach the Eiffel Tower! So, she takes the time first to ask for a map at the reception and to understand directions.

At the end of the day, Hope has been walking for 10 hours. At each crossroad, she was hoping to find the Eiffel Tower but she was always disappointed. She is exhausted.

Plan got a bit lost in the train, the road was longer than she thought but thanks to her map she finally reached the Eiffel Tower. She spent the rest of her day there, enjoying the beautiful view and taking  pictures.

And you, what do you do in the city of life? Hope and work hard? Or hope, work hard and make a plan?